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Julie Oct 18, 2018 (09:17 PM)  

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Welcome to the forum Ellie!

Congratulations on reaching out for help here. I found at the beginning, that it was very helpful to spend time reading through different people’s posts on here and learning about their different experiences and responses. Different tools work for different people it seems. I always found lots of support here when I asked for help and I felt less alone. 
Good luck to you. 

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Hello,


You got it right in your other posts. You simply work through the program and post in the forums. :)

I will report your error to the tech team as that is not supposed to be happening.

I hope you gain some helpful information. The more you prepared you are with information the better off you will be in your quit. 


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Ellie Oct 11, 2018 (09:31 PM)  

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Hi Ashley,


I desperately want to stop drinking.

Can you help me understand what I need to be doing to do this program correctly.

Also My Diary and Education lead to 404 pages for me.

Thanks Ellie

Ellie Oct 11, 2018 (09:29 PM)  

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Hi Foxman,


You seem to have been here for a while.

Can you clarify exactly what I am supposed to be doing.

Thanks

foxman Sep 08, 2018 (09:24 AM)  

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It could be habitual or it could be related to what we call it the spiritual malady. Spiritual Malady could be in the form of several things: boredom, fear, dis-contentedness, irritability, anxiety...If you can afford a treatment program preferably in-house facility, they can help you wean off your body from alcohol under supervision. And then you can see if you go back to alcohol once you get out. Habitual drinkers once they detox, they can then have a clear thinking and stay away or manage alcohol on their own. If you are an alcoholic, its better to stay stopped. It took a deep realization that I am an alcoholic that I have to seek a solution upon which I dont allow my mind to entertain the idea of a drink. The mind of the alcoholic is wired to think different. Its always looking for a easy way out. I know the mind will come up with strong resistance to visiting an AA meeting. But if you reach a point where you have ran out of all options please do consider going to a meeting. There are some good on-line forums too if you are not ready to visit a meeting. You could even get a person who can help you over emails/skype absolutely whichever media you are comfortable with. 

flowergail Sep 07, 2018 (09:45 AM)  

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Hi Gemma,
Sorry I didn't reply sooner. I TOTALLY understand how you feel. Maybe we can be of some help to each other... And Foxman, thanks for the input. I guess what I DON"T understand is I am ABLE to say no to alcohol all day. But the end of the day, work is over, I'm tired of thinking, it gets me. If I have the power to say no 9 hours a day, why do I not have that same power three hours in the evening? During the majority of the day, I AM thinking of the consequences and not drinking because of those. Why then at 5:00, do consequences suddenly not matter?
 
I just once again poured out the remainder of a bottle. It's part of my cycle. 3-4 days drinking at night, not sleeping well, tired of my head being cloudy. I pour what I have left out. Now there's none in the house. I'll not drink tonight. I'll feel GREAT tomorrow. Then after a day or two, the 3-4 day cycle will start over. I'm not sure the "number" of drinks I have in the evening. There is a stopping point where I just don't want anymore. Typically a half-bottle of wine, or 2-3 shots of stronger stuff maybe? It varies. 
 
 

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The chapter i am talking about has 4 stories. All to illustrate how the mind of the problem drinker acts prior to taking that first drink. The mind convinces the person to take a drink, coming up various reason why he/she should drink and more importantly the consequences are not brought to the forefront. After we succumb to that desire, there is no stopping. The battle is lost already. Look back with your own history. Maybe once or twice you will be able to stop it. But as days, weeks progresses we will let the guard down and the mind comes back with excuse.

Gemma Sep 06, 2018 (02:49 PM)  

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Thanks Foxman, 

I notice that you're on here quite often. Thank you for your presence. I'm pretty depressed today and having a response helped. I don't want to admit I have a problem. I feel like my brain is telling me I can stop even though the evidence shows that I can't moderate long term. I'm just focusing on today. My goal today is not to drink. I'm going out for dinner with my husband tonight and will not drink. Thanks again. 

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Gemma, if you get a chance grab the book called Alcoholics anonymous. You can go to AA.org and there is a online version of it.

Read the chapter more about alcoholism. Alcoholics cannot moderate the amount of liquor we consume. Neither can we keep away from it. Yet quite a few members of AA manage to go alcohol free rest of their lives. As long as they keep working the 12 steps of AA. Dont even have to go to a meeting. Just read the book to see if you can relate.

Gemma Sep 06, 2018 (11:32 AM)  

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Hi, 

I'm Gemma and fairly new to this. This post really resonated with me. How are you all doing today? I have tried several times before to quit or cut back on my drinking and have been mostly unsuccessful. I quit for a year at one point and then relapsed after someone intentionally gave me alcohol in my "virgin' drink. I don't blame them, I had just experienced a huge trauma and was probably on the verge of relapsing. I then convinced myself I could handle it - and did for a while. I then seemed to find every excuse in the books to drink and where I used to stop at 2 or 3 I now find I don't stop until 4-6. In March I learned some devastating news and my extended family is in the midst of a huge court battle. Since then when I do drink its usually 4 drinks. I wake up feeling depressed and defeated and usually hungover. I usually drink 3-4 days per week and consume 12-17 drinks per week. Its creating mental health issues, I've gained weight and occasionally black out. I know I should quit, but my short term goal is to cut down. Currently I am trying to stick to my goal of no more than 6 drinks per week, no more that 2 per occasion and no more than 3 times per week. Last night I didn't stick to that. 

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Yep, that's exactly me.  And it seems a never-ending cycle. Being hungover in the mornings is HORRIBLE. I hate how I feel. And I'll finally get fed up with that, pour out whatever I have, and do fine for 3-4 days. Then I tend to fool myself every time into thinking it won't happen again, I can control it. How stupid is that? But I have to say, I LOVE that feeling of the initial buzz, it's such a relief from the constant thinking in my head, and especially when I'm "worried" about something specific. If I make a list of pros and cons of drinking or not, the cons of drinking are sooooo much longer than the pros...

I saw the other day, you were 4 days without drinking. Have you been successful in continuing that? 

Pasco Jul 23, 2018 (05:23 AM)  

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I'm very similar, FlowerGail.  I wrote a song called "When darkness fall, my best friend calls" because I can go without it, am very productive and never been fired by a boss, never late to anything, fairly successful, but when it comes dusk I'll be drinking, except when I'm hungover, which means I drink every other day.  So we're similar in some way, I guess.  I'm really glad to have found this support group.  Thanks for opening up to us.

flowergail Jul 20, 2018 (09:29 AM)  

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Hi VioletStar,
I think I came here same reason as you. No way I'll do AA. I have a hard time even saying I'm "Alcoholic," as you've bravely done. But maybe I am. I have the power to say no to drinking during the daytime, no problem. Maybe we can work together on this....

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i have a similar pattern as you do...

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Hi Flowergail,


Thank you for writing out all your thoughts. It sounds like you use alcohol to cope with stress but it seems that it actually increases your stress in the long run. What do you think are other ways of coping with stress? What has worked for you in the past or what do you think you might want to try now? Finding alternative ways to cope with stress sounds like a big part of your quit or moderation plan. What do you think?


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