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hors controle Oct 10, 2019 (08:09 AM)  

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Thank you Lynn!

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Hors controle,

The thoughts of developing memories with a new grandchild should get you through some tough patches.  Congratulations!

Bassman,
It sounds like you know what works for you, that's great.  A lot of the difficulty on this journey we're on is finding what's good for us.  Stay strong and keep working!

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Thanks Bassman.

It certainly increases your chances

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Bassman Oct 09, 2019 (12:14 PM)  

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Congratulations, Hors Controle! That is a good reason for maintaining sobriety. 


I have good days and bad days. That wicked little AV can pop up on either. As long as I am working on the issue and not "resting on my laurels" - I have a good chance of success. Good luck to you!

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Welcome Bassman,

I only saw your first post. As High Tower said, one bite at the time. Not to discourage you but I am 9 days into my second month and I find it harder. The mental twist :-). I just remember the cons of when I was drinking and remind myself it is not worth it. 

I have reason to celebrate today. My first grandchild is born this morning. I will have a nice glass of water and think that if I stay sober, I will get to know that child.

You seem pretty determined and use the tools available to you. Good luck!

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Bassman Oct 09, 2019 (09:12 AM)  

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Foxman,

Thanks for the info. I will look into it. I really appreciate your input.

Bassman Oct 09, 2019 (09:09 AM)  

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Thank you, High Tower. Your words make sense. I appreciate re support.

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Bassman,
  I hear you. It is difficult in a small town where there is just one group. Maybe you can be part of AA related online groups. Forum under e-aa.org is pretty neutral, big book based, you may want to explore that as an option.

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Hey Bassman


Welcome to the forums and best of luck. You sound like you have the knowledge and that is good. I think at least for me is to take things in smaller bites. Work on today and be prepared for tomorrow. Don't over think or over plan. Sometimes I need to just focus on the hour I am in until my resolve strengthens. Just know that AV is not your friend, you can't trust him. 

You probably already know this but the repetition is what reenforces it. I too find it settling to verbalize my journey and enjoy the feed back of the members here. When things get harder I also just read older entries in here, all the stories and struggles gives me a bit more strength.

Find what works for you and build upon it. The journey isn't easy but it feels good when you make progress. Remember we are all rooting for you but NOT judging. If you have a minor setback we will pull all the harder to get you back on your path.

Why do all my short notes end up being a small novel? I think I use it as a tool to organize my thoughts, I am probably writing to myself as much as to you.

Stay strong
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Bassman Oct 08, 2019 (10:30 PM)  

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Foxman, I have done an inventory and shared it with another person. More than once over the years, with different persons. Unfortunately, I just don't seem to relate well with the vast majority of members of the fellowship here in my small town. There is only one group. My first experiences with the fellowship were in a large city where I lived at the time. It was very different then. I did well for quite some time. Life and situations change. I know the concept of "principles before personalities", but application of that concept is extremely difficult for me at this point. I am finding this writing is therapeutic. Thanks for being there as a sounding board.


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So you took an inventory and shared with another person? My frustration came from intolerance of situations and other people. So I focus on fixing myself everyday. Selfishness self-centeredness that is the root of all problems. So try to stay away from myself and be of use to others.

Bassman Oct 08, 2019 (09:27 PM)  

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Foxman, I appreciate the input. I have been a member of AA in the past as well. It has been a few months since my last meeting. I have read the Big Book many times. I have the knowledge. What I lack is the wisdom to use that knowledge on a daily basis. The "daily maintenance" is what is required for me. When I slack off, I drink. It's pretty sjmple, but not always easy.


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Bassman, I sobered up visiting AA and am still part of the fellowship. They refer to what you mentioned as "peculiar mental twist" that goes through prior to taking that first drink. Some of us succumb to that thought and act on it. Thats the insanity. Our mind is only focused on the effect produced by alcohol, doesn't think past that. The consequences doesn't crowd the mind when we act on it. Thats true powerlessness.

Bassman Oct 08, 2019 (08:07 PM)  

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Yes, I have practiced abstinence before. I have been able to go several months without alcohol. It seems that I am only able to do so by working a daily maintenance program. When I slack off that routine I end up drinking again. Thanks for the welcome!I


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Lynn123 Oct 08, 2019 (07:28 PM)  

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Hello Bassman and welcome.  I'm glad you found this site too.  You will find support here and people that understand what you are going through.  You said that your goal is abstinence.  Have you tried to abstain before?  


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