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hors controle Mar 08, 2020 (07:05 PM)  

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Welcome back Vee!

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Vee Mar 08, 2020 (08:01 AM)  

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Lynn, 

 I also remember times with little activity and how I wish there was , that's why I really appreciate this post . Your posts are helpful. This site has such good support so I think that's why I like it here . one thing I am going to do is go back to my old posts even to when I was " Junebug" I couldn't log in so had to create a new account. its interesting to see the same patterns in my behavior. Wishing you a great day Lynn 

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Vee, 


Admitting things to ourselves is one thing, saying them to someone is another.  Once it's out there, it's out there.  There's no going back.  The fact that you have previously gone three years without alcohol is great.  Use that to help you through the tough times.  Remind yourself that you've been down this road before and know what around some of the curves.  

I'm glad that you are finding my post helpful.  When I gave up alcohol I found a lot of support on this site, but there were times with little activity.  I remember those times and I'm here to offer my support when there doesn't seem to be any. 

I hope you are feeling better!

Lynn

Vee Mar 07, 2020 (07:05 AM)  

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Lynn that's amazing ! and yes same feeling ! that's great thank you for sharing! such an inspiration! Makes a big difference for me now that I have le that out . I think yes it was telling my family but in telling them I was admitting to myself ( even though I knew) hard to explain . 

  I have gone for three years before but I did convince myself that I was ok and here I am . But healing is not linear so I need to stop beating myself up because that was also part of my issue ( in my opinion)   

   Thank you Lynn, I really appreciate your sharing but also this post, and your replies . This is why I come back. Everyone here is so supportive , understanding and caring (which may sound weird as we are only online ) I am grateful for it  and everyone . 

Vee 

  

Lynn123 Mar 06, 2020 (07:36 PM)  

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Vee, 


I think it's great that you were able to face your family and express your truth.  Being honest with ourselves about our relationship with alcohol is hard enough, as is saying here in total anonymity.  I remember some of your post in the past talking about your family, so telling them took a lot of courage and was no small feat.  Congratulations.  

I understand what you say about a weight being lifted.  I had the same feeling when I finally decided to give up any thought of moderation and gave up alcohol all together.  Not the same situation, but the end result is the same---a feeling a freedom.  For me, once that weight was lifted, the hard times were not as hard.  I just knew I wasn't going to drink.  Ever.  Weird how the realization that I would never have what I thought I loved gave me comfort.  

Again, congratulations and stay strong!

Lynn

Vee Mar 06, 2020 (07:58 AM)  

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Glad you are well Lynn,

Battle is totally mine it always has been , I always have had the need to find approval from others in which why my journey is not to love myself . But I do feel relief that I was able to speak my truth and finally get the support. Mind you  I say finally like it was never there it was always there im sure I just never really spoke my truth . I just feel a huge weight lifted it was like just letting it all out there . and now  it will be nice that there is understanding rather then convincing from others and of course as always my self because really it always has come from myself. 

Thanks for all the lovely feedback and encouragement xo 

Vee

Lynn123 Mar 03, 2020 (08:26 PM)  

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Vee,

I am well, thank you for asking.  Hopefully the conversation with your family will reduce your urge to drink when you are with them.  In my experience, often, the very people that urge others to drink wish they could not drink as much.  When you see your family remember, "no" is a complete sentence.  Having their support would be great, but this is your battle.  Whether you achieve your goal or not depends on you, no one else.  

Being on this site for as long as you have, you've seen a lot of people come and go.  There are success stories here, and there are the people that haven't found the right path on their journey.  What do you think separates the two?  You said you had gone 2 months without alcohol.  Is this the longest you have gone or have you stopped before?  

I hope you are feeling better, both physically and mentally.  Stay strong!

Lynn

Vee Mar 03, 2020 (07:24 AM)  

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Thanks Lynn, yes I am really down on myself and still feel physically ill. im not to sure what triggered it . I was away at my fams house and that always started the drinking cause they drink. I do however feel like a huge load is taken off my shoulders cause I spoke to them and they understand will support me so now I know when I go no means no . so that is pretty positive , I have journaled before it has helped . I think I struggle with always self destructing . I do well and then I sabotage it some how not always with drinking but somehow .  I have been here on and off for over a decade . I feel like enough is enough and I can and will do it . but I do love the welcome support its very comforting for everyone and thank you for replying to my posts . how are you ?(if you done mind me asking )

Lynn123 Mar 02, 2020 (08:13 PM)  

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Hello Vee.  I read your other posts but will respond to your comments here.  I would think having a conversation with your family about your drinking was a hard thing to do.  How did it go?  It sounds like you are really down on yourself right now, but remember you were able to go 2 months with alcohol.  Everyone's journey is different, and for some it takes practice to become the person they want to be.  A stumble does not mean that the ultimate goal cannot be achieved.  


Your comments in the other posts sound as though you have learned a little about yourself, that's great! Was there one thing that triggered you to drinking this time?  Maybe journaling your thoughts of the past few days will help with future triggers. I'm glad you came back to to this site.  Being here before, you know there are people here to support you.  You are not alone.  How are you feeling tonight?

Lynn

Vee Mar 02, 2020 (07:22 AM)  

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Hi Lynn, been here before and have had some of your amazing insight . love this post great for us who feel alone in the struggle I guess . thanks for the welcome 

Lynn123 Feb 17, 2020 (07:53 PM)  

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To the new members and all the people looking around, welcome!  This is a great place to ask questions concerning you about your drinking.  As you have seen from looking around, there is probably someone here that can relate to your struggle.  It's also a great place to vent your frustrations.  


Where ever you may be in your journey, good luck!  

Lynn

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