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hors controle Sep 09, 2019 (07:40 AM)  

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Hi Lynn,

Thanks for checking out on me. I spent the weekend at my son's. No alcool. Starting my 9th day today. I already sleep SO MUCH BETTER. I can sleep an entire night. The first 5 days were rough, I just could not fall asleep but I think this stage is over. 

It is like, I just do not want to drink wine anymore. I did my one hour of physical activity every day. I think it really helps me.

I think also that minding myself for a few weeks by setting a date when I would stop, making plan b, etc. was the key for me. I also had a good motivation, getting my daughter back. She still does not talk to me but she is on the messenger family group and I am hopefull.

Have a great week!!

M

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hors controle,


Congratulations to you for 5 days.  How is your weekend?  

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hors controle Sep 05, 2019 (08:19 AM)  

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I am very happy. I had planned to stop September 1st and I am starting my fifth day today. 

I tought the cravings would be worst, going from 2 liters of wine per day for so many years to nothing. When I start having cravings, I have a few non alcoolic beers and write in my journal. I also eat my meals earlier.

I have put many fluo orange post it in my  kitchen to remind me why I stop. I wrote FREEDOM on them because I want to free myself from alcool.

My three children have started a group on Messenger where I keep them inform of my progress. They are very encouraging. I have also started doing one hour of exercise per day.

I am very encouraged that this time it will works.

Have a great day everybody!


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hors controle Aug 16, 2019 (07:37 AM)  

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Hi Foxman,

It was a good meeting. And yes, I realize I will have to be on my guard all the time

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Hope you had a good time. The key is to see how we are always led back to alcohol. Be it after a week or month or even years. If we dont stay connected the un-manageability of life creeps back in and we turn to alcohol. The chapter more about alcoholism talks about the "state of the mind" being the crux of the problem. The use the term "peculiar mental twist" in several parts of the book, how the mind tricks us into believing this time its going to be different.

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I am going to the beginners meeting tonight.

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hors controle Aug 14, 2019 (11:42 AM)  

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Thank you Foxman,

I will look for it.

I was thinking about attending a beginner meeting. Maybe they sell it there.

Have a great day!

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Thank you Dave for your support.

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Is it what you call the big book?
 
No. That book is called "Alcoholics Anonymous" by bad, I should stated that but the fellowship calls it the big book.
 
 
You can read them online until you get a hard-copy. I would say start with the chapter "More about alcoholism" and then the chapter "There is a Solution".

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Hi Hors Controle,


Stay strong! Wishing you all the best,

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hors controle Aug 13, 2019 (10:56 AM)  

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Thank you Foxman,

I will look where I can buy it. In the mean time, Living Sober gives me reflexion matter and tricks to be on my guard when my big day  comes. I have another book call the 12 steps and traditions. Is it what you call the big book?

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Hors contole,
  Alcoholics Anonymous (Big book) is the basic text. Thats the book you want to read and understand what they really mean by powerless and un-manageability. Living sober is a easy read, nothing concrete about how to recover. The first few chapter of the big book especially "More about alcoholism" go deep into how the alcoholic mind operates. If you are an alcoholic, you will relate to those short stories in that chapter. The use the phrase "peculiar mental twist" that precedes every drinking spree.

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Hi everyone,

I am back too, really want to stop. My youngest daughter does not speak to me and it hurts like crazy. An alcoolique friend took me to a meeting on Friday night. Even though I have been at meetings 5 years ago, I did not recognize myself with any of the speaker. 

Friday was an open discussion meeting. I went to get my "admission" token and beginer kit. It was the Candlelight Night. I really like the group, I cried, something I have not done for years and it felt so good. I really liked that format. Members suggest 3 subjects and then you can talk about it if you want.  At the end of the meeting, 2 young women about the age of my daughter came to talk to me and gave me their number. One of them told me even if she was herself an alcoolique she stopped talking to her alcoolique mother. I found that very touching. 

I have set the date of September 1st to quit completely. I am planning to go on meeting 3 times per week starting tomorrow, I took out my AA book (living without alcool) and will read it this week and become active physically again.

My others children are so happy about my move and IÙ want to make them proud of me and I want to be proud of myself. Crying again LOL.

I sincerely think I WILL SUCCEED this time.

M. 

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The thought of total abstinence terrifies me; also, my father had drink issues and, despite being in AA, was never successful at stopping completely
 
Dont let the experience of your father deter you from trying AA. There is the 12 steps and then the fellowship. Many just rely on the fellowship. Dont really accept that they are alcoholics and it shows. They fail to stay stopped. They say step 1 is most important step, I believe so too. And alcoholism is just not losing control after a drink or two. Its inability to stay stopped. The mind, tricks us into picking up. Or sometimes we dont think at all. We simply take it, thats the in-sanity we talk about.
 
Write down the instances you wanted to stay stopped, note down the time between each attempt. Go back to the time when you took a drink again after a period of abstinence. What was the thought process just prior to each spree???  You can see what we mean by powerless over alcohol. And un-manageability is about being restless irritable and discontented, you can add anxiety, boredom and other maladies...

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Flora,


Hello and welcome.  There is no advice for me to give that was not covered in Ashley’s post.  I won’t say that I know how you feel because we are all different in our journeys.  I will say that I understand your fear of abstinence because I once had that same fear.  I too was looking to be able to control my drinking but after receiving similar advice from Ashley, I decided to try abstinence.  


That was almost 4 years ago and to my disbelief, I have been alcohol free since that time.  I wrote to Ashley in a thread on this site to thank her. You can find this thread by following this link:    http://sg.alcoholhelpcenter.net/support/viewmessages.aspx?forum=6&topic=5787&ForumName=Health%20Educator%E2%80%99s%20Corner&TopicTitle=Thanks%20Ashley!


I encourage you to keep an open mind to abstinence, you never know what may happen.  I know I never thought I would be this content without alcohol.


Good luck to you!

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