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Lynn123 Jun 21, 2019 (04:39 PM)  

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Val,


I’m sorry about your slips but it’s good that you are being honest with yourself.  What Ashley said is true, being uncomfortable can inspire change. Odd though because change usually feels uncomfortable. Everything that I did when I drank was because it was comfortable. I think it’s human nature to want to be comfortable.


Stay with it and take one hour at a time.  Wishing you luck!


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I'm sorry to hear about your slip. Being worried is uncomfortable, but it can motivate change. Try not to be too hard on yourself - but keep moving forward. You can do this.  Ashley, Health Educator

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Val, please do visit an AA meeting. There will be many people who understand this peculiar mental twist some of us go through prior to taking that drink. It could be in the form of some silly reasoning: Been sober for 2 weeks, I should be able to drink a couple! or I should be able to handle a micalob ultra lite beer, its good for our health, low in cholesterol/carbs, it shouldn't hurt......

Also suggest you read "More about alcoholism" chapter in the book "Alcoholics Anonymous". Here is a link to online version of it:

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Hi Val!
The important thing is to acknowledge your "slip" as you have. Now the reflecting on how this happened and how to prevent it the next time begins. You don't have to do the same thing over and over.
Stay strong!

Val Jun 16, 2019 (07:05 AM)  

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Hi Ashley 


Last night I slipped. I was out of control. The negative feelings started to play up and all went down hill after that. I think I'm going to have to visit an AA meeting. I'm so worried.

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3 days is still good. Remember, slips are a part of the process. the important thing is to learn from them - it sounds like you are. Great work. Exercise and mindfulness are ideal stress relievers.


Being honest with ourselves is so tough. It takes strength and self awareness. It sounds like you are already becoming a stronger person.


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foxman Jun 08, 2019 (06:52 AM)  

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I was nervous to come on here today, but I have to be honest with myself. Plus, my daily journal really puts everything in perspective for me.
 
Thats the ego within us is talking us out of seeking solution. The ego wants to us to believe that we have a choice that we can manage ourselves but we cant. It will trick us back into taking the drink over and over again. Try visiting one of the local AA meetings.Its a spiritual program of action. We believe in our own concept of a higher power. Thats the beauty of AA you dont have to believe in anothers persons HP, you can come up with your own. But the key is cleaning up that are blocking us from your HP. Resentments is the number one offender the book Alcoholics Anonymous says so.

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Hello Val,


You are so right about being honest with yourself.  Great job coming back in today!  How are things going for you today? 

Lynn

Val Jun 07, 2019 (12:54 PM)  

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Thank you for your advice @ foxman and pharmgal. I truly appreciate it. 


Wishing you all a lovely weekend.

Val

Val Jun 07, 2019 (12:52 PM)  

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Hi Ashley, 


I did well for 3 days or so, however yesterday I slipped. I had one too many. I've noticed I tend to drink more when I'm under a lot of stress. Nevertheless, I'm incorporating ways (exercising and mindfulness) to help me cope and not focus so much on the negative. 

I was nervous to come on here today, but I have to be honest with myself. Plus, my daily journal really puts everything in perspective for me.

I'm hoping to become a stronger person.

Beat,

Val

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Welcome Val,


I am glad you found us. Many people use alcohol as a way to cope with difficult feelings. Working on the underlying issues can help; but, it is often best to get the drinking under control first or concurrently.  How did the first day go? how are you doing now?


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I should have said Resentments forces us to go back out.

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I have periods when I'm fine, however as soon as bad memories resurface of how my partner betrayed me, then cycle starts all over again
 
Resentments keep us going back out. Find a therapist and see if you can forgive and move on. Otherwise we will be stuck in the vicious cycle. 

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This could be me, but different triggers.
I have been 42 days without a drink. I feel healthier and much happier.
Stick with it Val.

Val May 31, 2019 (03:53 PM)  

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Hello everyone,


I was hesitant to share but I feel like it's the right thing to do. I need help. More than anything I  am hoping that I can find the support I am looking for. I'm ashamed of the person I've become. I feel as though I can handle my drinking in social settings, but when I'm home and after having one too many the nasty drunk comes out. I know what triggers me. The next morning, today for example, was super embarrassing and I immediately regretted drinking. I have periods when I'm fine, however as soon as bad memories resurface of how my partner betrayed me, then cycle starts all over again.

I want today to be over, so I can start off on the right foot tomorrow.

Thank you for taking the time to read my post.

Val

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